Maybe you are thinking there is just no way to forgive them. You don’t see that there is any way back to happy and healthy for the both of you. You have the desire to work things out and you believe your partner when they say, “It’s gonna be different!”, but you just don’t know what to do next.

There are still feelings of unworthiness, why was I not enough for them to be faithful. What other things did I miss along the way? Could I have changed something about myself and how I was in the relationship to keep things good? There are so many questions and not enough answers that feel like you can move forward. Love is still there and walking away from the relationship doesn’t feel like the right decision for you.

Through infidelity counseling, you and your partner will get real with what took place to get you to this point of your relationship. There will be deep diving into the inner work needed for both individuals to transition from infidelity into a healthier new normal for the relationship. The person who was cheated on will do the heavy work of forgiveness and the person who cheated will establish boundaries and practices to help their loved one begin to trust them again. (This process takes time, for many it can be years to get back to full trust and togetherness.)

Therapy will help you both develop the skills needed to reconnect and repair the broken parts of your love story. You can move forward from infidelity but it will take dedication and time.